The Do’s and Don’ts of Dealing with Children During Divorce:
The DO’S and DON'TS of dealing with children during Divorce:
Reassure your children that you and the other parent love them and will always take care of them.
Reassure your children they still have a family and two parents and the benefits of having 2 homes.
Provide as much structure, stability and consistency as possible.
Communicate with the other parent by phone, text or email.
Share information with the other parent when you learn of school activities, doctor’s appointments, extracurricular activities, etc.
Tell your children know it is okay to love the other parent.
Reassure your children that they did not cause the divorce.
Remember your children’s need for transition time when they return from the other parent’s home.
Talk negatively about the other parent.
Interrogate your children upon return from the other parent’s house.
Argue with the other parent when the children are near.
Discuss issues with your children, like child support, hearings, custody or complaints about the other parent.Discuss adult issu
Ask your children to choose one parent or the other.
Make your children feel guilty for enjoying time with the other parent.
Ask your children to keep secrets.
Use your children to communicate with the other parent.
Expect your children to give you emotional support.
Withhold visitation OR child support.